It’s common to be in social situations that involve alcohol while you are sober. Sometimes these situations are required by your desire to get work, secure an account, or maintain a positive relationship with a client or coworker.
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It can feel awkward when the rest of the group is having alcohol and you are not. Often few people, if anyone, even notice! People think of you less often than you think of yourself!
If you are comfortable, let them know you are an alcoholic or in recovery and no longer drink. It is very unusual that you’ll get a negative reaction when you are honest about your drinking.
You don’t have to explain why you don’t drink to anyone. But for those that are new to not drinking, you might feel awkward without a drink. There are some exceptions, but the great majority of people do not care if you are drinking or not, and often the ones that do have their own issues with alcohol. Being honest or having a “go to” response is equally ok.
Examples of “Go To” responses to stop questions:
Try not to ride with someone else to your destination so that you can leave when you want to. If you have a passenger, or if you ride with someone else, they need to understand you may wish to leave early. Never be dependent on someone else to leave a situation or be afraid or self-conscious about leaving early.